The comfy traveller's diaries

Author: anagrabovic18

How were your holidays?

The other day, I watched Vogue France’s ‘What’s in your bag?’ and, apart from being surprised by how many trinkets, good-luck charms and unhygienically stored eyebrow brushes models and celebrities seem to be carrying around, there was one thing that stuck with me: A journal with a citation from Karl Lagerfeld on its cover: Personality starts where comparison ends. It’s not really about the journal. In fact, I would not endorse carrying such things in your handbag. Overloading your bag with non-essentials like that will only give you a stiff neck and shoulder pain over time. Trust me on this one.

To go back to the quote, I thought it fit so well with the topic I wanted to write about this week. How comparing yourself and striving to meet other people’s expectations can be a real thief of joy or a catalyst for spreading negativity, apart from showing that you have no individuality to offer the world or those around you.

Have you ever had a real-life hater ask you: “How were your holidays?” And then make a face and walk away when your answer to the next mandatory question: “What did you do?” was “Nothing, really. It was relaxing”. People don’t want to hear whether you had a great time. That’s not the point of that question. They want to compare themselves. They want to know how many boxes you ticked off a copy-and-paste ‘bucket list’; how many ‘must see’ sights you saw, paid for and over-crowded together with the other thousands of travellers re-living the It girl itinerary they have seen recycled in different versions at least 100 times on TikTok or Instagram. Newsflash: Hailey Bieber and the Kardashians are most probably richer than you are, so good luck trying to relive their adventures. And this leads me to my second point.

I think the only thing people are really interested in is what you spent. Not openly, of course. But by trying to fish out what you did and where you stayed, they’ll input it all into the invisible calculator in their heads. Because they want to judge. Especially your colleagues. They want to judge whether your holiday was more expensive and luxurious than theirs, because how dare you have so much spare money! I think that is the part I hate the most about returning from holidays. It’s that jealous inquisition.

“You stayed in the 1^st arrondissement in Paris?! Oh lálá, très chic!” Mind you, that particular colleague earns twice as much as I do and actually, the hotel was in the 8^th. “You only stayed in Paris?” (Imagine that question with a verbal eyeroll). But at least a gleeful “Did you get stuck in the protests?” absolutely tipped the scale. Comparison successful. Her holiday must have sucked. What a waste of money.

The truth of the matter is that I had a fabulous time in Paris, only Paris. For the first time ever, I spent a nice number of days in a very pretty, Parisian hotel I have been at previously. But this time, I did not just run through it on a weekend or a short lay-over from the Middle East.

I came to purposely enjoy Paris, the city and its vibe. In my opinion, autumn is also arguably the most beautiful time to visit the French capital, and the weather did not disappoint. At no time are the parks more beautiful than in October. That’s just my own opinion.

I slept in, had croissants and pains au chocolat for breakfast, enjoyed the central location and took my time pursuing the Bohemian lifestyle. A slow-living city break, so to speak. I went for coffee and to the parks. I took lots of pictures and just sat. I ate macarons and pastries, had relaxed matcha and coffees sur place rather than in a trashy to-go cup and did a bit of shopping.

I treated myself to a massage (gatekeeping the location) and went on a day trip to the magnificent Château de Versailles. I’ll tell you more about this excursion another time. No rushing, no ticking boxes, just being. While the excessive walking took a physical toll on me, the mind got a well-deserved break, which in my opinion made the holiday a true success.

The only comparison I engaged in was whether macarons are better at La Durée or Fauchon. I have to be honest: La Durée wins by quite a margin.

What I do for fun on a holiday is boring to most other people and that’s quite okay. I don’t need to engage in activities just to have something to report to the haters. Holidays and travel are about enjoyment and personal experiences, and for me the simple fact that I was able to be in a beautiful place was more than enough. It did not need fancy dinners, pricy shopping or thrilling activities. For me, the biggest luxury on this trip was time. Although I have been to Paris many times, I never had that much time. And it made quite a difference. I could do the things I wanted to do and go to the shops I wanted to go to without feeling rushed.

And every night I thought how lucky I was when I walked back to that beautiful hotel in the 8^th arrondissement. How were my holidays? They were amazing. Thank you for asking.

No AI was used in writing this post.

25.10.2026
A bird’s eye view and a bucket full of noodles
My latest trip to London was yet again filled with a lot of love and laughter and other than catching up with people that have been very important in my life for several decades, I did not do much. But London seems to be as popular as ever – if my Instagram views are anything to go by

My trip was short, but sweet. And when you spent much time speaking and hanging out with loved ones, you don’t really go through an entire bucket list of places to visit. However, we did some really cool things that my friends’ children also enjoyed and which I would not have known about if it had not been for them organizing it all. Hence, I cannot really take credit for the specific travel recommendation I want to share with you today, but I feel they are too good to keep them secret.

Never mind my fear of heights, I have three different recommendations for you in terms of getting a pretty view from above of London, and none of them are the London Eye. In fact, two of them are even free of charge.

First, there is the Sky Garden located in the “Walkie Talkie” building in the City of London, close to Monument tube station (Circle and District Line). You, however, need to book your free tickets in advance.

Right next to the Sky Garden is the humble little restaurant Murger Han, that – according to my friend – is the best noodle place in all of London. And to validate that point of view, he is a serious foodie, married to another serious foodie. If bone broth and other collagen fixes are all the hype for you, this one is for you, too.

Having to scoop out the marrow myself was somewhat out there and confrontational for me, I am not going to lie. But sometimes, even this comfy traveller leaves her comfort zone. And it was surprisingly tasty and the hand-made noodles were really nice. I just could not get over the portion sizes. I think a third of that bowl would have been enough for me.

Unfortunately, we did not book tickets for the Sky Garden in advance, so we opted for the alternative option of the The Garden at Fen Court, which is only a short distance away and features an actual garden on its rooftop terrace. You just need to have a bit of patience and queue up. On that day in September, the queue was not bad at all though and we waited no longer than 10 minutes.

The Garden London City.

The garden is surprisingly big, and it is exceptionally well kept. From up there, you cannot only see the grey mass of what London is, but you also have a beautiful bird’s eye view on the Tower of London and Tower Bridge dwarfed by unesthetic high rises from the 1980s and beyond. On the other side, you get a close view of the Gherkin and in the distance, there is the imposing dome of St. Paul’s Cathedral.

If your eyesight is better than mine, I am sure you can see as far away as Big Ben. What struck me most on this grey and slightly rainy day (no surprise there) is the utter absence of anything green in sight, though. Stairwells and rooftops came in all shades of muddy and grey, but trees were largely absent. While we were spending some quality time up there, my friend’s youngest thought that it would be really fun to walk up the Monument as well and so we did.

The Monument, commemorating the great fire of London that had started in Pudding Lane, was not far from where we were at.

While it is not free of charge and you do need to climb up more than 300 stairs, it definitely has its own charm. You’ll have a better vantage point for the Tower of London from up there but let me warn you: It isn’t the best option for those of us that are afraid of heights. On the way back, we made our way through the city, stopping at Leadenhall Market for coffee and tea and took the tube back from Liverpool Street.

None of the recommendations are sponsored in any way.
11.10.2026
An ode to the tote
My most practical travel companion to date

Before I begin this blog post, let me tell you that the brand of the tote I want to praise here does not even matter. It has been re-made, copied, plagiarised, altered, optimised, made ‘more accessible’ or whatever you want to call it so many times over by other brands known and unknown, high end and high street, that it isn’t a particularly unique product to just one brand anymore. It is out there for a variety of budgets, and whether that is a good or bad thing from a brand perspective is not for me to judge.

Shop display of Longchamp totes

The point about this kind of tote and why I want to speak about it today is its practical value. And to continue with full disclosure: I own one in three different sizes, two of which regularly serve me on my travels. Why? Because they are sturdy, lightweight, foldable, and – most importantly – can be wiped down. And in addition to being incredibly practical for all these reasons, they look chic, effortless and put together.

Since the bag itself weighs so little, you can pack all the umbrellas, water bottles, blister plasters, sunscreens and whatever else you need besides your proper handbag and simply stuff it in. You cannot do the same with a leather bag. You would, first of all, ruin the leather bag.

The smaller-sized tote regularly serves me as a travel bag fitting an iPad or laptop and headphones plus other necessary carry-on items and doubles as an everyday bag when I am out and about on a city trip.

Second, the bag would have to be made of such sturdy leather as to already weigh 5kg before you even put anything into it in order to not bulge out and look unaesthetic and simply messy. Third, leather does not love the rain. The nylon of the tote does not care. Unless it is pouring down, it will also keep your items dry as it is water repelling. In all honesty, I have never been under any kind of rain strong enough to wet any items in it.

And unlike most other totes, you can zip it shut, and no one will see the mess inside, making you instantly look more put together. Bonus.

The bigger, XL version, is another travel favourite of mine because it is big enough to even replace a hand luggage trolley and still fits ‘under the seat in front of you’ which is particularly handy when you travel with a power bank you need to keep in sight and belong to my category of people, i.e. those people who would literally forget it in the seat pocket if you were to keep it visible there. This way, I slide the tote under the seat and keep it open enough to keep an eye out on whether the power bank is behaving as it should. Another plus is that I do not need to fight over limited overhead bin space. I am so over that.

On other occasions, when I tried to save money on the airfare and booked a ticket excluding checked luggage, I would bring this tote along, neatly folded into my hand luggage. On the way back, when I had done some shopping, I would use it as hand luggage and check in the trolley with which I travelled on the outbound leg of my journey.

And now the biggest plus of all: you can clean the bag so easily. Especially when you are travelling on your own and your luggage follows you anywhere, it is just the best feature of the tote that its nylon body can be wiped down with antibacterial wipes so easily. I am going to refrain from TMI content, but there are so many occasions I am relieved that I can just wipe it down after public transport, chairs, café sofas, planes or whatever have you. It gives me so much peace of mind and that should never be under-estimated on any trip.

And if you paid attention and wonder what I do with tote No. 3: It is employed as my daily lunch bag to the office.

This post is not sponsored. I am not affiliated with the brand of the item featured here, nor have I received any incentives, payments or products for free. All bags were purchased with my own money.
27.09.2026
Travel hair
How to look after your hair when travelling

I have recently been specifically obsessed with anything hair-related. I sometimes go through these phases; I always have. Although my hair obsession has always been strong, it feels somewhat amplified lately because my hair and nails are not having the best moment right now. I know, it is time for some supplements, but these usually take a few months to do their magic.

Or, maybe, I am just extra worries about those hair-related issues, because I am preparing for the next trip. Travel hair is a real thing. Most hotels – and I have written about this before – feature that off-white-coloured air fryer passed off as a hair dryer. Mounted into the wall with a cable as short as that useless 1m charging cable that comes with a new iPhone. It will do nothing for you apart from ruining your hair in a second. Just thinking about it gives me the shivers and revives my high-school trauma of crispy fried hair after every swimming lesson I did not manage to get out of.

Blessed with naturally wavy, coarse and voluminous hair, for me, the frizz as well as the crazy, curly baby hair halo are a constant looming nightmare. Thus, I need to be extra smart about what I pack when going on a trip. At the same time, when I manage to pull off a good hair day, the world is my oyster and I feel like a super model, even when I am just wearing jeans and a white T-shirt. In my opinion, hair is the business card of your personality; it’s what people see first and what defines your style.

Now, the complication with that statement is, of course, that you cannot control the outside factors like the weather, for example, that’s why you need to be prepared.

Since we have also established quite a while ago that I have given up on packing light, I am not even ashamed to tell you that I will pack an entire salon for three nights abroad.

Besides the tragic hair dryers, I would also reckon that most hotel toiletries are made for a minimum effort rinse of men with hair no longer than an inch. If you happen not to fall into that category, you have probably already learned that the two-in-one generic shampoo that smells like you borrowed it from your dad is likely going to give you a lot of volume – and not the good kind.

If you, on top of that, use that dreaded hair dryer, you’re not going to look cute. It’s a fact. And if you do fall within the former category, I would still advise you to stay away from all of it and use your own products and hair dryer.

In the past, I would try to tame the frizz occasioned by the hotel hair dryer with the straightener I brought with me, but that only damaged the hair even further. I have thus come to terms with the fact that I just need to bring more stuff. It is what it is. If you can empathize with me and are also looking to up your hair game while travelling, here’s what I will pack:
- A hair dryer and maybe a straightener, too;
- Shampoo and conditioner for my hair type;
- An anti-frizz spray or cream;
- A heat protection of some sort;
- Hair oil;
- A solid shower cap;
- A microfibre hair turban.
I am, of course, still mindful to reduce bulk and weight in my luggage and aim to bring most products in travel sizes. I have also purchased a smaller hair dryer for the same reason during Black Friday sales last year. Most drugstores and department stores nowadays feature a good selection of beautiful over-priced minis of the shiny and glossy products that I love so much.

Those minis are excellent for refilling and usually much sturdier (and cuter) than the plain travel kit bottles that will break after the first use. My hairdresser in Belgrade once gifted me a hair oil sample I still refill a decade later; it is just the perfectly sized bottle for a long weekend away.

My last pro tip is that you should always bring your own sturdy shower cap. The flimsy hotel kind is not really made for people with long hair or lots of it. I find it doesn’t seal properly, and you’ll end up with the mess you sought to avoid in the first place when you are having a no-hair-wash-day shower. A microfibre hair turban is also a must. I’ve been told by many hairdressers that cotton towels damage your hair unnecessarily and let’s not forget the sheer weight of those hotel towels towering on your head.

I know that to some of you this packing list may sound excessive. However, I challenge you to try it. Let’s normalize bringing an entire hair wardrobe on trips because a good hair day will make the rest of the day great, too!
13.09.2026
I pay comfort tax – to myself
How I don’t buy things, but pay for comfortable experiences

One of the most popular posts on my blog has been ’10 Common Sense Ways to Save Money for Travelling’. In that post, I shared my basic bookkeeping habits, inspired by Japanese Kakeibo and common sense. I have taken this approach for quite a while now and you would be surprised how well it works. Whatever I save at the end of each week, I consider to constitute comfort tax – the money that will cover for all the unreasonable and unforeseen expenses that naturally arise when you travel.

I don’t buy things, I buy experiences. And above all, I buy comfort. Travelling on a plane? I will pay for the aisle seat, because I don’t want to end up stuck at the window or in the middle with a gigantic sleeping neighbour blocking me in. Arriving late? I’ll pay for the taxi. Arriving in a new place? I’ll ask the hotel to send a pick-up.

Whenever I chose the ‘cheap’ option in the past, it stressed me out to the core. For pick-up options, I ended up wondering where that dingy old van was going to take me. I remember having a pick-up driver I booked through the booking platform (because it was cheaper) demand that I “come to the parking” rather than actually picking me up as requested at arrivals. It was late and I did not know my way as it was the first time that I arrived at Milan Linate airport. The fact that I am even trying to justify myself here is not right. I paid for a pick-up service, not a taxi. While I did successfully refuse this and made him come pick me up, it was unpleasant and uncomfortable. Often the prices for the real deal are unreasonable, no question. But when you travel, especially when you travel alone, it is not worth risking it in my opinion. And apart from paying for comfort and security, you always need access to emergency cash in case you get stranded.

Money can literally buy you peace of mind. And this is the approach I learned to take in the past couple of years.

I went for a coffee in a café this morning – a flat white – and kakeibo style, I paid cash. It was shocking to see that 5 EUR note leave my hand for a single cup of coffee with next to no change in return. I didn’t regret the coffee. That’s not my point. My point is that you can get better at saving money for what you value most by visualizing the mindless spending. By swiping our cards or phones, we just do not realize where it all goes and at the end of the day, we feel we cannot afford to travel because there’s not much left in the account at the end of the month. That’s when travel takes a backseat and if you do decide to travel, you likely end up having to go for the cheap option, cutting the comfortable corners here and there. If we reduce our spending to a more mindful spending, there is more money for travelling. You just have to be disciplined, as with most things that are worth attaining and working towards in life.

While I am absolutely not qualified to give you financial advice, I wanted to add a little follow-up on my earlier post: What can we implement on a regular basis to optimize the budget we have at our disposal when we are finally embarking on that trip? All those coffees I did not have on the go might pay for all my taxi fares. All those impulse purchases I did not make might have enabled me to get a room with a view. All the make-up I did not buy, might finance overprized, delicious hotel breakfasts.

I had a follower write to me asking what I did in life and how come I was so rich to travel all the time. I am not. I am just careful about what I spend of my weekly budget, and I collect all the surplus as comfort tax. I put that tax away, so that it can be used for buying me comfortable experiences, it’s as simple as that.
30.08.2026
Simple
Instead of a ‘real vacation’, I have been spending some time with family in the village of my childhood. There is a lot to be said for a simple life, retro-style.

While social media wellbeing accounts propagate simple habits as a kind of ‘to do list’, living simply is the purest form of relaxation there is. Picking your fruit directly from the tree is arguably the most wholesome luxury there is. Enjoying your morning coffee in the garden without being confined by a schedule; not checking your phone for hours because you forgot where you put it and buying cherries at the farmer’s next door can hardly be topped in terms of well-being hacks.

Maybe it’s midlife, maybe it is just the desire to escape the constant emails, notifications, work whatsapps after hours and deadlines. I don’t know, but for someone like me, who mostly travels to city destinations, the dolce far niente vacation is a necessary fixture in the year. And who’s around in August anyway?

It’s not like anything is really happening at work or elsewhere. Everybody is waiting for September to have the world reset. And to be ready for September, you really got to chill a bit.

Every summer, I have the desire to disconnect from the modern world as much as I can. Last year, I was lucky enough to go to Croatia and spend my day swimming and sunbathing all day. This year, I have found a different way to disconnect. I have been focusing on the things I remembered from my childhood that I have missed in my day to day: baking a cake with the plum’s picked at the farmer’s next door or listening to old vinyl records and spending time in the garden. The goal was to be offline as much as possible; slow living at its finest.

I can truly feel how it benefited my soul. In the mornings, I sat with no purpose on the terrace with a coffee in hand. I enjoyed plugging wilted flowers in the garden and watch the figs grow ripe. I had no desire to go to town and no desire to shop. Disconnecting like that for over a week can be so soothing and relaxing, almost zen.

Like top athletes have off-seasons, so should those of us who are always in motion. If you are honest with yourself, wandering through a hot and stuffy metropolis in summer is not going to address the feeling of being a hamster in a cage. Only doing nothing can really do that.
16.08.2026
Your staycation is someone else’s dream holiday
How practicing gratitude can save you a lot of money

Last year, when I wrote about my favourite of all vacations (summer vacation), I could not really predict the prices of everything leading me somewhere sunny and warm would soar to new heights in 2026. Whether it is the flights, the hotel, or simply the 8 EUR pool side coffee, this year is looking a little gloomy in the beach department. But here’s the thing:

How blessed am I to be living in a country with a beach? Even though I long for a sea to swim in rather than one to just look at, it is simply not in the cards right now for me to go and chill on the shores of the Adriatic or Mediterranean for a fortnight or so. But it doesn’t mean I cannot appreciate the different kind of beauty of what I have at home.

Of course, the weather is the biggest factor for me in all of this, because sitting in a cold breeze wearing essentially winter clothes that I have worn for 8 months consecutively in the middle of August isn’t really that cute. But, if summer stays around for longer than the fortnight it has already been here, what is at my doorstep is literally someone else’s dream holiday.

I can easily take public transport in the early morning, make my way to the dunes and hang out on the beach with not much on my mind for the rest of the day; reading a book and gazing into the horizon. Sipping cappuccino in a surfer café-beach bar shack isn’t so bad after all, because it is so far removed from my everyday life. Vacation mode switches on as soon as the soles of my feet hit the sand.

If you realize the privilege of being exactly where you are, every staycation can become glamorous and relaxing.

I have a loyal follower on Instagram with whom I sometimes exchange. He lives in a city I once lived in. Every Saturday, he goes for a run and posts pictures of his morning run. To him, it’s just a run. To me, it is reconnecting me with a place I miss a lot; it lets me dream of walking down the streets and visiting shops and places I loved.

After all, isn’t that what all Instagramers do: “This is where I am at, and how beautiful is it”? And I don’t mean that in a negative way; to the contrary. It can also be the ‘wish you were here’ urge, we feel the need to share in the moment. I think that when we think about where we live in that way, if we make home ‘instagrammable’ so to speak, it can make us so much more appreciative of and grateful for what we have.

You can completely romanticize the entire experience by changing your perspective. Your normal is someone else’s dream. Whether you are going to the beach, hiking in the mountains, looking over the hills of Tuscany or sunsets at the Pacific, or whether you sit and eat ice-cream in Central Park; whether you live in the Netherlands, Tokyo, London, or the South of France, someone else would love to be where you are right now.

Maybe the Tropezians get bored of Saint Tropez, too. Have you ever thought of that? But they wouldn’t show you that on Instagram, would they?

Maybe your forest walk would be the ultimate luxury for an asthmatic city dweller.

Maybe it is time that we looked at our staycations with the eyes of a tourist. What would you make of your days if you had saved an entire year to pay for the flights and the hotel to transport you to where you are? What would you do if you only stayed for a week? Maybe draw up a list of things you’d recommend a stranger do in your place and use it as an itinerary for your staycation.

Just do things you never find the time for. Try the new neighbourhood restaurant, go for a hike, read that beach side novel; whatever it is.

Being grateful for what we have can really make or break a staycation. The most important thing is to exit the routine and change your vantage point. And in the end, you do not even have to pay for flights.

I really hope you all have a good time vacationing and hope to see you here again soon.
02.08.2026
Once upon a time, diamonds were a girl’s best friend
A Daytrip to Antwerp, Belgium

The compulsive traveller that I am, I cannot just stay put for months on end in one place. I need to go somewhere and see something else, eat something else and just expose my mind and soul to different influences. This is how I came to plan a day trip to the Belgian city of Antwerp, world famous for its Diamond Exchange and Diamond quarter. With good train connections from the Netherlands and a reasonable travel time, this entire trip seemed like a good idea.

For once, I planned a bit and came up with a shopping list of places I was likely to go and check out while there. If anything, it served as a sort of itinerary for the day. I had no plans for any museums (not such a fan of Rubens to be very honest) and diamonds aren’t within my budget anyhow. It was all about atmosphere, coffee, and waffles. Most prominently, and on top of my list, was, however, a bagel café.

I woke up as early as on a weekday and made my way to the train station where a middle-aged passenger played Chopin on the train station piano while I waited. He played beautifully and the melody went so well with the quiet and peaceful morning. It was really cold for the season, but the crisp air was somehow soothing. I had to change trains only once on the Dutch side and boarded the EuroCity train to Belgium that looked like a relic from the 1970s. The train’s weird colour scheme and ancient appeal somehow transported me back in time, but surprisingly, it was very clean at the same time and in spotless condition. As such, I had nothing to complain about. It did not take long before we crossed the border into Belgium and lots of people were boarding the train. Everybody was going to Antwerp. Arrived at Antwerp Central Station, I could not help but be impressed by its three-story train system and the imposing architecture from colonial times.

My first serious stop was going to be the bagel café, but before that I wanted to stroll through the deserted streets of a shabbating Diamond quarter. Deserted it was, shabbating as well; but I could tell it wasn’t only because of shabbat that shops and buildings looked empty. There were an inordinate amount of signs on residential buildings and shops advertising them for sale or to be let, which was only rivalled by the number of security cameras zooming in on me.

I walked through a few blocks (most definitely looking more suspicious than touristy); none of it was glamorous. If anything, it was depressing. A few men in religious attire were crossing the streets, and so did soldiers with balaclavas and rifles ready to be used. I saw a dusty, abandoned shop that had once sold books and Judaica, a closed hat shop looking for a buyer, and an enormous areal of what must have been residential blocks before the bulldozer had its way. What was indicated as a ‘Diamond factory’ on google maps seemed to have been razed to the ground as well. I suppose that these days, diamonds mainly grow in labs and it shows. The glory days were definitely over. Further down a side street, I could see the Diamond Exchange in a cordoned off street; at least that looked more alive somehow.

After this little sight-seeing tour, I decided it was time for a good bagel. The place wasn’t far. Established in 1879, now Bagelstein was located in a diner style front shop within, or affiliated with, the Radisson Blu hotel between Central Station and China Town. Not the most glamorous of neighbourhoods as such, but I was determined to give it a go.

I ordered Belgian spring natural water with my chicken, cream cheese and extra salad sesame bagel because I was intending to go to various cafés throughout the day. The bagel was soft and tasty. I did not regret coming all the way for it. What I loved the most was that it was served as a good bagel should be and not in this bizarre, deconstructed style I find in the Netherlands where all the toppings are draped on bagel halves I never know how to eat without soiling myself.

After I finished my bagel, I looked at the list of places (mainly cafés) I had drawn up at home. Walking towards what appeared to be the main shopping street, I walked past the usual suspects of fast-food chains bizarrely sandwiching in traditional diamond jewellers. A bit further down, mundane high street shops were lining the once glorious façades of the street. The first stop on my list was a ‘speciality coffee’ place close to the church of Notre Dame.

Arriving at my destination, I was extremely underwhelmed to find out that the place was just s store front – no indoor seating (the pictures on google had clearly lied), and the overpriced coffee was ‘served’ in a takeaway cup; in other words, you had to pick up your tiny paper cup and find a seat among the randomly assembled tables in front of the shop – McDonald’s style. The weather was getting worse, with droplets of rain mingling with the cold air.

Sitting on my plastic outdoor chair, I spotted a sign advertising a ‘chocolatier’ on the other side of the square, which I decided to check out, even just for bringing back some Belgian chocolate as a souvenir.

When I approached the shop, I realized that it was empty and abandoned. A sign was mounted on the door explaining that the shop was closed for good, thanking all customers of past decades for their loyalty.

To the side of the abandoned chocolatier, I realized, was another dying business: traditional lace. The shop was currently in the middle of its ‘closing sale’ with all items drastically reduced. When I entered, an almost cheerful old lady was assisting two Japanese tourists interested in a tablecloth in flawless English to find the biggest discounts. It made me so incredibly sad to witness this entire charade.

Although I didn’t need anything, I felt emotionally compelled to pick up something and aimed for two extremely fairly priced hand-embroidered moth-repelling little lavender cushions, only to be almost admonished by the old lady for not noticing that they came as ‘buy one get one free’. When I left the shop with four cushions instead and a tear in the corner of my eye, I wondered whether the square would soon be adorned with yet another bubble tea shop, kebab stall and made-in-China knick-knacks instead.

Since the cappuccino I just had didn’t really hit the spot, I ventured on in search of a different café. I walked over to the Grootemarkt aka grand place where several wedding ceremonies appeared to be held in the majestic city hall. Parties of guests would stand in groups celebrating the different couples who had just tied the knot. I went to take a seat in one of the more traditional looking cafés that gave me a good vantage point for what was going on in the square. Feeling touristy, I decided to go for Belgian waffles, but unfortunately, they did not have any. I settled for yet another cappuccino – Belgian roast. It was actually pretty good. When the rain returned, wedding guests came to shelter under the large parasols, ordering pints of beer while waiting out the short shower in high spirits.

When I left along the imposing buildings that frame the main square, now housing an Irish pub, Turkish kebab and Japanese Sushi, I stumbled upon an artisanal chocolatier. The shop smelled divine. A few tourists were buying chocolate pralines with funky flavours, but I stuck to chocolate bars and purchased some from the chatty shopkeeper as a souvenir of this trip.

Still thinking of Belgian waffles, I searched google maps – but all the places reportedly selling them were literally fast food-style storefronts and you had to gobble down your 1500 calories in the rain and on the street. It was a no-brainer. In my opinion, unhappy calories are better left uneaten.

I set out in the direction of a matcha café featuring on my list, which was supposed to be in the fashion district. Getting there led me through a hipster borough with organic supermarkets, second-hand shops and vegan cafés. Since it wasn’t really vibing with me and the vibes were quickly changing into ‘I wonder whether it’s safe down here?’, I decided to abandon the mission and returned to where I came from. I did have a matcha latte on the way back in one of the numerous tea shops that lined hipster-ville highstreet, and decided to try out some window shopping in the more commercially oriented part of town instead.

After resisting to buy a pair of sneakers I did not need, and steering clear of a pretty, sky-blue cardigan (apparently the ‘it’ colour of 2026!), because it somehow reminded me too much of my boss’s never changing attire, I was kind of done for the day. Headed back to central station, I came across a traditional Flemish bakery – ostensibly very popular because the queue was real!

I bought more bread than was reasonable for a solo household (that’s what freezers are for) and it was most definitely the highlight of my trip.

Trying to get a better picture of the fascinating indoor façade of Antwerp central station, I took the escalator to the higher floor.

In the left-hand side corner, relatively unspectacularly looking from the outside, is the most magnificent café I have a seen in a while. When I entered, I was stunned at the opulent gold-gilded décor and high ceilings of its interior. Finally rounding off the day with a Belgian must have, I ordered my waffle and sat in admiration until it was time to get back on the time machine.

Little did I know that EuroCity train reservations are only valid for the exact train you book. Even though it does not let you reserve seats like the EuroStar, you apparently cannot take an earlier connection as I did. And so, it came that I ended my day trip with a beautiful fine from Belgian railways. Don’t be like me. Read the fine print on your tickets and maybe have another coffee instead of rushing for the earlier train.

As always, I am neither sponsored nor affiliated with any of the places, shops, and establishments mentioned in this blog.
19.07.2026
The art of dining alone
Chapter 3 – People watching par excellence

It has been a while since I published Chapters 1 and 2 on the topic of solo dining. If you missed them, just click on the links or browse through my older blogs if you like. Chapter 3 is dedicated to one of the most fun parts of solo-dining: People watching. Because, let’s face it, if you are in company, you hardly ever notice the people around you unless they are extraordinarily obnoxious. But watching people dine is one of the most interesting ways to people watch when you have nothing else to distract you. And without being a judge or psychologist, you learn to predict behaviours and can royally entertain yourself by anticipating certain scenarios. Who is going to pick up the check; who will be ordering what for desert; or who is simply going to eat next to nothing but order it all.

As a little disclaimer, I will have to insert a parenthesis here and tell you that I am helplessly old-school when it comes to table manners; my grandma taught me how to eat oranges and bananas with knife and fork. I will just let that sink in. “Sit upright and elbows off the table!” I sometimes still hear that phrase ringing in my ear, especially when I see atrocious table manners of fellow humans. How much I miss my gran. But she wouldn’t be all that pleased when dining out these days.

Earlier this year, I have been to this rather nicely located restaurant with a cool, laid-back appeal near Palma’s marina. While it wasn’t a particularly formal atmosphere, it wasn’t a beach bar either. However, some – or most of the foreign tourists – seemed to mistake it for the former and you saw it all. And I mean all. The chalk-skinned lady applying sunscreen all over herself at the table (to be clear: not just the face); the British new money couple silencing their already quiet three-year-old with headphones and a gigantic iPad before they had even ordered anything. Not only did this poor child not benefit from natural stimulants, but he also wasn’t really getting any proper food either. While her ladyship was sipping (or downing, depending on how you look at it) an entire bottle of white wine, picking through her spaghetti alle vongole and a fresh salad over probably checking her socials, her husband was busy ordering everything on the menu, complaining to the waiting staff and pretending to send work emails.

At some point, I made a bet with myself that this poor child would probably get some French fries shoved down his face or a sandwich from a Tupperware (after all, the multiple diaper bags must have been for something). In the end, it was actually both fries and a soggy sandwich from the Tupperware. And apparently, you can administer French fries to your child while still watching the screen of your phone. This display made me incredibly sad and as much as I am not a fan of screaming toddlers running through a restaurant, this entire scenario was somehow so much worse.

Next, we had a group of scarcely clad Americans lounging on their chairs, taking off their shoes and getting drunk in the tempting April sun; a mixed group of New Zealanders and/or Australians not taking ‘I am sorry, we do not have free tables unless you have a reservation…?’ as an answer and simply staying put (i.e. standing literally next to my table), blocking the walkways for the waiters and discussing topics of geopolitical import while simply just being a pain to everyone.

With the Germans, you just know that the women are the treasurers of the family budget, even in public. Mutti will take out her wallet and deal with the bill as overtly as humanly possible, that is for sure. Germans also find it only natural to use their mother tongue when addressing the staff, especially in Mallorca. It’s the 17^th Bundesland, is it not?

When it comes to food though, you can at least count on the Italians. A very large family gathering, including a few small children that were allowed to be in the presence and company of their parents and grandparents were seated right in my line of sight. No one was crying, no one was arguing. There they were, enjoying each other’s company and a meal under the pleasant shade of the fabric sails that were installed over stretches of the beautiful terrace of this restaurant. When I see scenes like that, I become sadly aware of being there by myself only.

The middle-aged Spanish couple, still clad in thin puffer jackets like me (because it was the beginning of April and far from warm) were quietly making their exit before I could signal the staff to bring the bill as well.

I challenge you to try it for yourself. Next time you are wondering whether you should go out to have lunch or dinner by yourself, you should find yourself a seat with a good vantage point and start observing what is happening around you rather than be on your phone. You can learn so much about people and their habits when they think no one is watching them and it can be so entertaining, just like watching a series.
05.07.2026
Barcelona FOMO
The ‘fear of missing out’ is real

Continuation

On day 2 of my 3-day trip, I took it easy. Sort of. I woke up late, got ready and went down for a long breakfast, otherwise known as two drawn out Cappuccini and not checking the time.

One of the things I enjoy most in hotels is the breakfast buffet. I am a loyal chia-oatmeal person all year round, so when I am somewhere with a buffet, I like to switch it up. My philosophy is to eat what I don’t have at home. The hotel had a few delicious mini-sized Spanish pastries I loved, but sitting next to a guy whose first meal of the day was basically diabetes on a plate, I felt like I should rather go for ‘girl boss vibes’ as my brother calls it and start my day with an instagrammable green juice and a healthy selection of yoghurt and nuts.

It was a public holiday and hence a lot of museums and other places would be closed. With hindsight, I did not plan this trip well. I should have known better. After all, there was a reason I had this Monday off at work. My initial (pre arrival) plan had been to go for a long run by the beach, but the 26.000 steps I walked on Sunday in a pair of Converse meant that this was no longer a viable option. However, being in a city with a beachfront, I had to go and see it. Keeping the promise I made to myself the night before, I took the metro instead; mostly anyway. I was really impressed by how clean the subways were and how easy it was to find my way.

When I arrived at the mediterranean shore, there were lots of people jogging and running along the promenade and I felt a wave of FOMO overwhelming me. How much I would have loved to join them and see the entire beachfront that way. Once more, I deeply regretted all the walking I did the day before. But pitying myself wasn’t really what I came here for. There was much more to see, and unfortunately, much more to be walked that day.

It was definitely time for another coffee, and one metro ride later I was checking out the neighbourhood around the casa Milà, found a place with watered down tourist cappuccino and a clean bathroom to ponder my options now that my beach visit had been shorter than expected. Apparently, this chill-looking café was nevertheless a pick-pocket haven because two of the very kind waiting staff almost suffered a heart attack when I placed my Longchamp tote (rest assured, I always keep valuables in a separate handbag that is with me at all times) on a chair to ‘reserve’ a table before going to order my coffee at the counter. It’s just one of the many downsides of travelling alone. You don’t have anyone who can occupy a table while you are getting the coffee; but according to them, I shouldn’t have done it; it wasn’t safe. It was a bit sad and unsettling to hear that, but well. Luckily, no one had nicked my things and even though the coffee wasn’t the best, it was a nice place and I had a good rest while my phone was recharging on the power bank.

Given the amazing shopping options I had spotted in Gàrcia late Sunday afternoon, I wanted to go to a few shops I cannot find back home in these dimensions. The main ones, such as the giant Zara, a nicely sized COS and Muji were open despite the public holiday. But the truth be told, I am not really a girl that likes to shop (within my budget at least). I run out of patience pretty quickly and also prefer spending my money on travelling rather than clothes I objectively do not need. So, my shopping adventure did not last too long and resulted in zero purchases.

When I felt like having something sweet, I suddenly got obsessed with Crema Catalana again. According to Google, there was a highly recommended spot in the Gothic quarter, so I decided to make my way there, taking the metro, of course. It turns out the place was a complete tourist trap with a girl serving everyone in English by default and Crema Catalana coming in plastic, aluminium-coated containers she took from a fridge to burn sugar on top for show. It wasn’t even that tasty. All in all, I doubt it was worth the calories, and it was definitely not worth the hype.

Even with taking the metro back and forth, I was already past my 10.000 steps and pretty ‘shopped out’, so I decided to take advantage of another thing I do not have where I live: the sunshine. I thus made my way back in the direction of the hotel, but without any rush. And in any event, no metro stop was conveniently located close to where I was staying.

Walking from the nearest station towards the hotel, I came across an intriguing looking second-hand bookshop that was open and had an impressive collection. I also found a Matcha café, where I could choose between different kinds of matcha – something I have never found in any other city I visited.

Unfortunately, the seating situation wasn’t the best, but I had a really tasty and very refreshing iced Matcha latte on a warm and sticky day.

When I came back to the hotel, I found a stretcher on the hotel rooftop right next to Señor Diabetes from breakfast who was having a muted fight with someone on the phone. And if he thought I was stalking him, that was his problem. Just chilling out here in the sun was so incredibly worth coming all the way to Spain for. My FOMO disappeared.

A small wave of FOMO woke me up on day 3 though, when I suddenly felt the urge to ‘make the most’ of my time until I had to leave to the airport. Since I already brought my gym kit all the way, I decided to go for a little run despite my calves putting up a screaming protest. But let me tell you, seeing the Basilica of the Sagrada Família at sunrise with no one but a security guard and a few birds around was definitely one of the highlights of my trip.

FOMO doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It can also be a motivator. Since I am not really doing well with crowds and I had avoided getting close to the Basilica for this reason, I was extra grateful for having gotten out of bed before breakfast and forced myself on a mini run around the blocks to see this impressive architectural masterpiece in peace and quiet.
21.06.2026